Wednesday, April 13, 2011


"I can do it on my own."

"Thank you, but I can handle it alone."

"No, I can't ask for help...if I did what would they think?"

"I can't be seen as weak & if I ask for help that will surely make me look weak."

"I have to be a self made woman (or man), I just have to do it myself."

Proverbs 16:18 "Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall."

Sometimes we find ourselves in a situation that we never dreamed we'd be in. Regardless of what brought us to this particular place in life we have to go through it in order to reach the other side. The real problem arises in how you handle the "right there and now" of things. You may feel as if you have no option but to go through it alone. It may be a sense of self pride that keeps you from allowing others to help you along the journey or there may very be no one else there that will stand by you (or so it feels.) Either way you do what "you" think has to be done only to find that your no further ahead or behind of where you started. It's as if your paddling to the shore but you never seem to move an matter how hard you try.

Someone sees your dilema and offers to help you row, but you just don't feel right letting them help. Your sense of self pride keeps you from accepting. All the while you paddle and paddle but yet you move not. Time and time again help is offered but you can't let go and let them lend you a hand. Dare I go as far to won't let go of your pride to admit that you just aren't able to do it alone. Yes, admittingly you do need help. Instead you sit there spinning your wheels going nowhere fast.

Why won't you let loose of your pride & accept the help? Do you feel it might take something away from you? Are you afraid to admit that you have trust issues? Are you scared you might look like a lesser person if you accept? Maybe you feel somehow that people would think you would be using the other person (even though that's not your intent at all.) Could it be that due to something or some things in your past have you just plain scared?

While all of these scenarios are justifiable, we might be focusing too much on the "what if's" and loose sight that you just might be exactly where the LORD wants you to be at this particular time and HE has assigned that person to be HIS hands & feet to help you. Now you can hold tight to your pride & continue to go it alone, or you can put pride to the side and let GOD do what HE does for HIS children. I know all too well that it's not easy to let go and let someone else help, but you have to let go at some point in your life and put pride on the back burner. If not, your going to be in for one fall after another.

When GOD send us help we have a choice, either grab hold of the hand HE sent us or keep our hands in our pockets. The choice is yours.

1 comment:

Ronda said...

Beautiful. Just what I needed today. Thank you!

Love & Prayers